Apologize And Feel Better

The poster says:  Apologizing:  does not always mean you are wrong and the other person is right.     It just means you value your relationship more than your ego. ——- Unknown

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“I wasn't saying whatever they're saying I was saying. I'm sorry I said it really. I never meant it to be a lousy anti-religious thing. I apologize if that will make you happy. I still don't know quite what I've done. I've tried to tell you what I did do but if you want me to apologize, if that will make you happy, then OK, I'm sorry.”
― John Lennon 

“In this life, when you deny someone an apology,
you will remember it at time you beg forgiveness.”
― Toba Beta, My Ancestor Was an Ancient Astronaut

“An apology is the super glue of life. It can repair just about anything.”
― Lynn Johnston 

“Never forget the nine most important words of any family-
I love you.
You are beautiful.
Please forgive me.”
― H. Jackson Brown Jr. 

Blessings, 

Judy

Walking In Energy

 

So many people have their own view of what energy is.  In some cases, the view may be incorrect, but as you see from the quotes below, energy is important to all of us.  And, we need to have an understanding of it.

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In essence, everything is energy and cannot be destroyed. ~~Ted Andrews 

It is important to remember that we are energy. Einstein told us that. And energy cannot be created or destroyed, it just changes form. ~~Rhonda Byrne 

You can use your life in a very useful and intelligent way. You can very well transform that negative energy into a positive energy that empowers you and makes life meaningful. ~~ Thich Nhat Hanh 

You let the energy go wherever it wants. I have such a rich spiritual life. Most people take drugs to experience that. ~~ Shirley Maclaine 

I can tell you that anything that happens in the physical body will happen in the pattern of the energy fields first.  So you actually create distortions in your own energy pattern that have to do with unforgivingness towards your self. ~~Barbara Brennan Quote 

Blessings,

Judy

Be Your Best Self

 

The poster says:  Your best life comes when you commit to being your best self.  —- Cheryl Richardson

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Over the years of working and coaching people, I have had many people question what it means to be your best self.  Their concern is that a person is so busy learning their job, taking orders from a boss, and working long hours along with trying to cope with a family and parental tasks that they do not have time to think about best.  They do as good as they can which is mostly not their best.

The concern is valid.  All of us have outside pressures on us that can interfere with self learning, contemplation, and reflection.  The pressures interfere with how we see ourselves and our values and interfere with us setting boundaries.

To be our best self, we need to slow down and take a breath.  We need to think about the things that we want to do as our best self.  For many, this may be about being the best self as a father or mother or brother or sister or child to a parent.  It may be about learning everything one can about a hobby that fascinates and fulfills them.  There is no right answer.  It also means that one must let go of trying to be perfect in other things.  In other words, one must set boundaries around what is the best and what is okay, and how one splits their attention and time.  It is a complicated life!

Blessings,

Judy

Solitude

 

Sometimes, we simply need a place to be by ourselves, in the stillness of nature, so that we may find ourselves.  Solitude is about learning to be alone with one’s self. It is our choice. We need to be quiet.

It is not about being cut off from others, by others.  Being cut off from others, by their choice, is isolation.  

Today, when you meditate, quizz yourself on all the times you felt like you needed solitude.  When you have your list of recurring instances, look at it to see when you need to schedule some solitude time. You then begin working with the flow of your life.

Blessings,

Judy

Loving

 

The words on the picture say:  Love is like the wind, You can’t see it, but you can feel it.  -  Nicholas Sparks

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The feeling of being loved is the most generous, all encompassing, delightful feeling that I know.  It comes from our family, our very good friends, and our pets.  It helps us get through the terrible times when we suffer grief, pain, anger, and even life threatening situations.  When people do not like you, it is the absence of love.  It does not matter.  Why associate with anyone that does not know how to love?

Blessings,

Judy

How Do You Choose?

The poster says:  You have two primary choices in life:  to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them.  —- Author Unknown

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When you walk through life, each decision is a fork in the road.  We all know this at an unconscious level.  However, we all need to be mindful that each choice is like the stone hitting the water; waves ripple across the pond and move the lily pad, splash the frog on the rock, or lap over the shoreline.  Our choices always have consequences. When we accept that we must change something, we can pray to move through that change with grace and dignity.

Blessings,

Judy

Being Happy Is A Style

 

The poster says:  Being happy never goes out of style. —-Keri Hilton

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I had to go to the shopping mall the other day.  As I walked towards the store I needed to attend, I looked around and saw that there did not seem to be very many happy looking people walking around.  

Happy does not mean that you need a big grin on your face all the time.  Happy means looking peaceful, content, relaxed, and calm, and looking like you are enjoying the experience of what ever you are doing.  

For example, people that are doing their favourite hobby usually look very happy and contented.  Guys who love working on cars will not necessarily be smiling but they may be humming or whistling even if they throw in the odd swear words because of a road block in their job.  Some ladies who knit were saying the other day that there is nothing like uninterrupted time for knitting… it makes them happy.  

We each have a way to incorporate happy into our life, into our style.  How do you accomplish this each day?

Many blessings,

Judy

Your Best Life

 

The poster says:  Your best life comes when you commit to being your best self.  —-Cheryl Richardson

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Someone asked me the other day if I thought that I was living my best life.  I thought about the question for a moment, and I answered, “Yes!  I am living my best life at this time.”

The person then asked what I meant by “this time”.  I replied that early on in my adult life, I made choices that made my life difficult, and therefore my life was not the best life for me at that time.  I had to complete some karma (and I will leave it at that).  

The next question was - what makes this time so good to be considered your best?  That was an easy one.  Everything that I need and everything that I want to do are there for me to move forward.  I really want for nothing.  Not many people can say that.  I have wonderful sisters and a brother, and wonderful friends, and the best husband.  I could go on, but you get the idea.  I get to do what feels right.

The individual started pressing with more questions.  I said, “I am done with this.” 

I walked away.  I get to make the choices and to do what is right for me.  I do not have to put up with someone else’s agenda. Neither do you.

Many blessings,

Judy

Being Immortal

The poster says:  Millions long for immortality who don’t know what to do with themselves on a rainy Sunday afternoon.  —  Susan Erzurum

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It is hard to believe that we are immortal souls when we have so much going on in this mortal life.  Yet, if you can find that space of “no time” in your daily thoughts or in your meditation, you can see the very beginning and end of time, and all things between, for just a few moments.  And, in that time, you know there is no time and you are immortal!  You find memories and future visions in that glimpse.  You are eternal.

Blessings,

Judy

Religion and Spirituality Are Different

To me, religion is an agreement between a group of people about what God is. Spirituality is a one-on-one relationship. —-Steve Earle

I am interested that several times, lately, someone comes up to me and tells me that they are spiritual, and then proceeds to describe their religion to me.  Their religion seems to have so many rules and “must do” and “must not do”, I wonder how they can possibly enjoy life. 

I enjoy Steve Earle’s comment.  Steve Earle is a singer and song writer who has written hits for movies including Dead Man Walkingand Brokeback Mountain, to name two.  His quote talks about spirit and it’s relationship with God or Great Spirit.  

Blessings, 

Judy

Expanding One’s Self

The poster says:  I love people who make big dreams feel normal.  Who remind you that nothing is too much.  Who expand your vision just by being themselves.

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Some say that we should learn nothing new, that all learning is the source of discontent!  I see that those who expand, like the flower, grow and live life to the fullest.  I see those who are conservative, and who disavow that which is new, begin to shrivel.  They dry up and life leaves them.

Expanding is the art of moving forward and upward.  It is the movement of connecting deeply with one’s highest self or highest spirit.  It is a challenge.  It is rewarding.  It is renewing.

Blessings,

Judy

Mother’s Day May 10 2026

 

Happy Mother’s Day!

Mother’s Day rolls around and we all feel that urge to connect to that Mother figure in our life.  It may be our birth mother, adopted mother, aunt, grandmother, special person, sister, that is, anyone who took care of us and “mothered” us with love and/or affection, and pride, and sufferance.  

We all have stories to share.  Today, however, send out loving thoughts to that person and bless them, and let them go.  

Blessings,

Judy

More on Effort

This poster says: On this path no effort is wasted.

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I saw this sign, and it made me smile!  It confirms what I believe – that is – that each of us walks a path that is so unique that it carries great importance for the rest of the Universe.  This means that one should never let the influence of another person’s agenda change what a person must do.

If we were all gifted with foresight, perhaps we could say to another person, “You should do this or that!”  

However, most people are quick to offer the “shoulds”, especially when it suits that person’s agenda to get something done.  More and more, I am noticing that so many people who seem to have their life in shambles, want to tell me what I am doing wrong – not right – but wrong, in my life.  

I find their concern quite funny!  Their comments come unsolicited, and are quite different areas of concern than what I generally have.  I wonder why they are even thinking about some of the stuff that I get feedback on.  

If you have friends and family that are giving you too much advice, try laughing over it.  

Blessings,

Judy

You Are Here To FULLY Live Life

(Note:  the original picture used here has disappeared. I replaced it with this one.)

The poster says:  Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.

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As I watch people aging around me, I notice that the biggest difference between happy people and sad or angry people, is the amount of change that each individual allows in their own life. 

What do I mean?  The happy people are always going and growing.  They learn new things.  They participate in groups or volunteer.  They go beyond what they can or what they have to do to look after themselves.  Many of them are quite active physically in walking, biking, hiking, playing pickle ball or swimming.  The physical activity allows them additional energy to do other things.  When chatting with some of them, they all say that they will give up other things to continue to do the physical activity.  

I think that there is a lot going on about aging that we do not understand and that we can possibly change.  One of the things is going beyond the comfort zone.  What do you think? 

Blessings,

Judy

Visible Or Not - It Is Achievable

The poster says:  Success is possible and achievable.

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So often the life you lead is because you see things in the mirror of failure.  Try positive thinking.  See things in the mirror as though you do them with zest.  Make the intangible real to your mind, and you have already achieved it.   Success is always available to us, even though it may be in a different route than you imagined.

The biggest mystery is that thoughts are energy.  And, therefore, you are what you create.  This is not new, and it is not either good or bad.  It is a state of being.

The question becomes, would you rather be stuck or rolling?

Blessings,

Judy 

Donkey on Life

Donkey talks about being the guide that leads you safely over rough ground, through dry terrain, and up the side of mountains.  Donkey teams with you so that you have guidance on:

• Being surefooted
• Being able to go the distance, no matter how hard the struggle
• Being able to push or to pull you up a steep hill
• Being able to survive on just about any food

If Donkey is now coming in to your life, you are very lucky.

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To see more information on Donkey, check out this post - https://www.lightstationwisdom.com/2025/03/donkeys-thoughts-for-you.html.

Blessings,

Judy

Mandala

 

   This image comes from Unsplash.com 

What is a mandala?  Wikipedia says: “ A mandala (Sanskrit for "circle") is a geometric, usually circular, symbolic pattern representing the universe, wholeness, and the cosmos in Hinduism, Buddhism, Jainism, and Shinto. They act as spiritual, meditation, and, or ritual tools, with intricate, symmetrical designs organized around a central point to aid, focusing attention and promoting, inner, peace.”

For those of us that do not have an Eastern belief system background, we recognize the circle, the design of the circle, as the circle of life, or of the Universe design of completeness.  It resonates with us.

Sometimes, you find a mandala (a spiritual symbol) that resonates for you so loudly that you can hardly hear.  The symbol may be quite specific or it may be filled with indefinite shapes.  Whatever the layout, there is “something” in it that helps you focus and to become balanced.

A mandala may be used to set and hold sacred space for something, or, for clearing, if the mandala is highly regarded.  It may be what helps you find your center in meditation.

This is the day that you start looking for your mandala, if you do not have one.

Blessings,

Judy

Growing Pains

On life's journey faith is nourishment, virtuous deeds are a shelter, wisdom is the light by day and right mindfulness is the protection by night. If a man lives a pure life, nothing can destroy him.  -Buddha

We often complain about our lives and how hard they are.  One of the lessons in this short quote is – lead a good, pure life, and the way is not so hard.  

If life is hard, then it is growing pains. The person is moving away from faith and being good and kind and industrious.  When we move off the path of doing things that are right, we grow and stretch our learning, and we hurt our selves and others along the way.  There are not any shortcuts.  It is life.

Blessings,

Judy

Holding The Light

One of the most difficult things to do, I think, is to hold the light every minute of the day, especially when you have to work at a job where this may be difficult.  

Light in this case is defined as goodness, kindness, respect, integrity, unconditional love, and compassion.  The person is without ego, goes with the flow, and lives in gracefulness, without judgement and criticism of others.  Some folks are lucky to be born in this state and to hold it through out life.  Others of us have to work at it.

How do you find ways to keep your light present when people are arguing, or back stabbing, or even crying?

Blessings,

Judy

King Penguin Talks of Old Friends

The penguins at the Calgary Zoo are now doing their penguin walk daily at 10:30am, weather permitting.  Watching the penguins is a joyful activity and brings smiles to most everyone.  I received my reminder to go to watch the penguins and it made me think of their activities.

King Penguins live in the Antarctic and the very southern tips of countries close to the Antarctic.  Their numbers are huge – in the millions – and their colonies are very large.  It is easy to become parted from your friends – those chicks that you grew up with in the crèche.  Finding a friend after several years is an unusual occurrence and one that has some of the same ceremony that human reunions have.

King Penguin shows us that:

• there is nothing quite like an old friend
• affection should be displayed
• life can be full of surprises
• everyone loves to be appreciated

Blessings,

Judy