Apologize And Feel Better

The poster says:  Apologizing:  does not always mean you are wrong and the other person is right.     It just means you value your relationship more than your ego. ——- Unknown

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“I wasn't saying whatever they're saying I was saying. I'm sorry I said it really. I never meant it to be a lousy anti-religious thing. I apologize if that will make you happy. I still don't know quite what I've done. I've tried to tell you what I did do but if you want me to apologize, if that will make you happy, then OK, I'm sorry.”
― John Lennon 

“In this life, when you deny someone an apology,
you will remember it at time you beg forgiveness.”
― Toba Beta, My Ancestor Was an Ancient Astronaut

“An apology is the super glue of life. It can repair just about anything.”
― Lynn Johnston 

“Never forget the nine most important words of any family-
I love you.
You are beautiful.
Please forgive me.”
― H. Jackson Brown Jr. 

Blessings, 

Judy

Your Best Life

 

The poster says:  Your best life comes when you commit to being your best self.  —-Cheryl Richardson

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Someone asked me the other day if I thought that I was living my best life.  I thought about the question for a moment, and I answered, “Yes!  I am living my best life at this time.”

The person then asked what I meant by “this time”.  I replied that early on in my adult life, I made choices that made my life difficult, and therefore my life was not the best life for me at that time.  I had to complete some karma (and I will leave it at that).  

The next question was - what makes this time so good to be considered your best?  That was an easy one.  Everything that I need and everything that I want to do are there for me to move forward.  I really want for nothing.  Not many people can say that.  I have wonderful sisters and a brother, and wonderful friends, and the best husband.  I could go on, but you get the idea.  I get to do what feels right.

The individual started pressing with more questions.  I said, “I am done with this.” 

I walked away.  I get to make the choices and to do what is right for me.  I do not have to put up with someone else’s agenda. Neither do you.

Many blessings,

Judy

On Staying In Balance

I have been getting phone calls and messages from people who say that they are out of balance.   The article below is one of the best that I have seen about being in balance.

Blessings,

Judy

The Art of Staying in Balance

--by Osho   (Aug 18, 2008)

 

The most difficult thing, the almost impossible thing for the mind, is to remain in the middle, to remain balanced. And to move from one thing to its opposite is the easiest. To move from one polarity to another is the nature of the mind. [...] 

It is difficult for the mind to come to the right diet, difficult for the mind to stay in the middle. It is just like a clock's pendulum. The pendulum goes to the right, then it moves to the left, then again to the right, and again to the left; the clock's working depends on this movement. 

If the pendulum stays in the middle, the clock stops. And when the pendulum moves to the right, you think it is only going to the right, but at the same time it is gathering momentum to go to the left. The more it moves to the right, the more energy it gathers to move to the left, and vice versa. 

Thinking means momentum. The mind starts arranging for the opposite. When you love a person you are gathering momentum to hate him. That's why only friends can become enemies. You cannot suddenly become an enemy unless you have first become a friend. [...] 

Logic is superficial, life goes deeper, and in life all opposites are joined together, they exist together. Remember this, because then meditation becomes balancing. 

Buddha taught eight disciplines, and with each discipline he used the word right. He said: Right effort, because it is very easy to move from action to inaction, from waking to sleep, but to remain in the middle is difficult. 

When you are standing in the middle you are not gathering any momentum. And this is the beauty of it -- a man who is not gathering any momentum to move anywhere, can be at ease with himself, can be at home. 

--Osho

Starting Over

The poster says:  I’m not giving up.  I’m just starting over.

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Sometimes, we just need to know when to throw in the towel, and, start over.  There is so much magic in just walking away from something that is not serving your needs.  It is awesome!

This was a lesson that I had to learn in my twenties.  I was frustrated with the job that I was in.  I felt that I was really in the wrong place.  My angels encouraged me to think about the right place for me, and to make the change.  I did.

We have been taught not to give up and to carry on.  What for?  Usually, to serve someone else’s agenda.  If you are doing what feels right to you, regardless of how it looks to others, then you are doing the “right” thing.  Right action is about making your heart sing.

Blessings,

Judy

About Perfectionism

The poster says, “ Done is better than perfect.”

Buddhism asks us to go beyond the self, not to perfect the self.  - Dharmavidya David Brazier, "Living Buddhism" 

It is difficult to really know what perfectionism is.  We all seem to know what is not perfect.  We constantly say, “Well, it’s not perfect!”  

We are such ego driven beings – we humans think that we know what perfection is.  

The Angels tell us that each of us is perfect the way we are.  If this is true, then why do others wish to change us?

Maybe that is why more and more people live alone.  Then, they don’t have anyone constantly telling them what is wrong with them.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could say, “Here is what is right about you….”

Blessings,

Judy

Remembrance Day November 11 2023

Today is Remembrance Day in Canada.  Today, I remember my great grandfather on my mother’s side, my grandfathers on both my mother’s and my father’s side, numerous great uncles, uncles, and cousins. Most of them are no longer here.  Most of them have fought several wars.  Some of them are now retired, and still doing what they can for others.

I am thankful that my Ancestors were very brave and that they had a strong sense of right, of truth, and a belief that no one man, no one country, and no one religion should rule the world.  I am thankful that they fought for what they believed in. Their actions have been a shiny example for me, of standing on one’s truth.  

I am thankful, too, for all the women in my family, who supported the men, and who acted as machinists, nurses, labourers,  and who made do with what was available.  These women taught me about necessity living. 

I am aware that the peace that I have in my life is because all of you stood for what you believed in.  Thank – you.

May all of you know that you are honoured and loved through time. 

Blessings,

Judy