Do you know someone at work or in your family and group of friends that sees every comment or opinion as a criticism and a challenge to them? I see some clients that do not know how to deal with other people's opinions. They see it as criticism or being put down. These folks have never learned to separate the concepts of feedback, coaching, criticism, and negative comments. Everything is taken personally. They over react. They are antagonistic. It makes them difficult to deal with and difficult to have as an employee or as a client, and even as a friend. They are so out of balance.
Who Are They? As a generalization, this trait is dominant in people who are only children or youngest children. Perhaps it is because they didn't have to share and get along with others, and therefore did not develop a "thicker skin" along the way. There seems to be an edge of anger to them in every situation. And yes, there are exceptions. Remember, this is a generalization.
Is Change Possible? It takes a lot of time, kindness, trust, and willingness to change to alter the behavior. Most often, the person must work with a psychologist or other counsellor. Once the change is made, the individual seems to go on to achieve remarkable goals and to grow in abundance.
What If They Don’t Change? If the change is not made, the person gets stuck in a rut where they see the world as against them. The person may slide into depression and eventually become very depressed. Some slide into drugs or alcohol, or both. The spiral of behaviour is self destructive.
Many blessings,
Judy
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