The Dynamics of Giving

 

The poster says:  Better to give a little in love than a lot for recognition. — Boyd Bailey

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Understanding and accepting who you really are right now is as important as the commitment to become someone more open and generous. Whatever the quality of motivation, when we intentionally reach out to others in giving, some degree of transformation occurs.  - Dale S. Wright, “The Bodhisattva’s Gift”

Walking this world is a lot of work!   There are many ways that we feel we must protect ourselves.  One way we insulate ourselves from others is to judge the other person.  For example, we see someone who needs help – food, shelter, or what ever – and we can say, “ It is not my job to help that person.  He/She should be taking better care of themselves.  They are lazy, or drunkards, or…..”  

Often, we cannot know what path has led a person to the place where he/she needs help or needs clothes, food, shelter, or safety to be given to them.  

What will you give today? 

Blessings, 

Judy

Loving

 

The words on the picture say:  Love is like the wind, You can’t see it, but you can feel it.  -  Nicholas Sparks

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The feeling of being loved is the most generous, all encompassing, delightful feeling that I know.  It comes from our family, our very good friends, and our pets.  It helps us get through the terrible times when we suffer grief, pain, anger, and even life threatening situations.  When people do not like you, it is the absence of love.  It does not matter.  Why associate with anyone that does not know how to love?

Blessings,

Judy

Happy vs Unhappy People Who Volunteer

My friend and I were walking with our dogs and talking about life.  She chairs a fund raising event that has run annually for thirteen years and raises over $50,000 each year.  She has been very successful at running this two day event.

We were talking about what makes people join groups and volunteer.  Her experience over the years is that people are happy to volunteer and help with an event when the end goal helps a lot of people and when the event is fun to participate in.  She says that she has been very lucky to have strong volunteers that are generous with their time and that have great ideas and throw their whole effort into being part of the event.

Recently, however, some of her staunch volunteers have had to pull back because of ill health or simply ageing and not able to do the level of energy that is required.  She has taken on new volunteers.  Some of these volunteers, she says, are simply unhappy all the time.  They find fault with the event.  They find fault with new ideas.  They say that they are happy to help and yet they do not want to put a lot of effort into their volunteer-ship. They complain about the timing of the event, the length of time it runs, about the customers that come (and spend a LOT of money), and about the venue.  She says that these folk are simply unhappy with life and want to take their unhappiness out on her and the others that love the event.  She finally suggested that they may not want to volunteer at the event since it did not meet their standards.  Then these folk were incensed that she suggest that they were not good enough to help out!  

Our discussion was around how she could meet the requirements of these six volunteers.  My thought was that you cannot make unhappy people happy because happiness is not a validation that comes from outside of people - it comes from the inside - from the enjoyment and self satisfaction of life in general and doing things that makes the person feel happy inside.  It is a losing battle to try to please an unhappy person.  My suggestion was to give each of them a very limited role that did not touch on too many other people because an unhappy person will work to make everyone unhappy.

My friend reworked a schedule around that idea and parsed them out so that none of the six worked at the same time or in the same group.  She met with them individually and walked though what was expected for their short volunteer time.  She said it worked to minimize the problems.  She expects to have another successful event.

Many blessings,

Judy 
 

Giving

An act of giving is of most benefit when one gives something of value, carefully, with one’s own hand, while showing respect, and with a view that something wholesome will come of it. The same is true when one gives out of faith, respectfully, at the right time, with a generous heart, and without causing denigration.  - Andrew Olendzki, "Dana: The Practice of Giving" 

I was putting together a bag of clothes that we no longer use, and looked around the house for stuff – knick knacks, jewellery, dishes – that we no longer use.  I am working at getting our household to a simpler level of maintenance. 

When I sat down at my computer, I was pleased to see the above quote sitting in my inbox on my mail.  I love this quote!  While I don’t necessarily hand deliver everything, I certainly select what I give with much thought, and, I test to see whether the object is for the best and highest good of the receiver.  I also test to see if the object is good over the next year, if the answer is ‘yes, this is good for the receiver’.  If the object is only good for a day or a week, to me, there is no point in giving it. 

I like to give things to my family and to my friends.  I especially like to give herbs and aloe vera slips to people because the plants are so helpful.  What I have found too, is that plants like to move from place to place – at least some of them do.  So, for me, giving a plant is a win-win for the person and the plant.

I often wonder if, at the back of what is going on, Creator and my Angels are having a chuckle at how easily they can guide me to give something to someone who needs it.  I don’t mean that they are laughing at me; I mean, they are laughing with joy because I am joyful at the time, too.

Many Blessings,

Judy