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Over the years of working and coaching people, I have had many people question what it means to be your best self. Their concern is that a person is so busy learning their job, taking orders from a boss, and working long hours along with trying to cope with a family and parental tasks that they do not have time to think about best. They do as good as they can which is mostly not their best.
The concern is valid. All of us have outside pressures on us that can interfere with self learning, contemplation, and reflection. The pressures interfere with how we see ourselves and our values and interfere with us setting boundaries.
To be our best self, we need to slow down and take a breath. We need to think about the things that we want to do as our best self. For many, this may be about being the best self as a father or mother or brother or sister or child to a parent. It may be about learning everything one can about a hobby that fascinates and fulfills them. There is no right answer. It also means that one must let go of trying to be perfect in other things. In other words, one must set boundaries around what is the best and what is okay, and how one splits their attention and time. It is a complicated life!
Blessings,
Judy