Dealing With Another’s Anger

I have been writing in my journal for many years.  I often like to look back at what I have written to see what memories the writing sparks in me.  Sometimes, the writing is a story.  The article below comes from my last job in software and IT.

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Over the last couple of days, I have had to deal with other people’s anger – toward something else, at their partner, or towards me.  

In the cases of anger towards me, the individuals were telling me that I was impatient, and that they were reflecting or mirroring my anger towards them.  I thought that was interesting.  I had no feelings towards them.  I was simply doing the job and giving instructions for how something needed to be done.  In working with software, to change something, all steps must be precise and in order.  when I pointed out that they were not following the steps in order, one individual was angry that I was criticizing him.  

I asked my angels what was going on.  My angels replied that the individuals had created their own reality of the situation.  When I did my stuff that needed to be done, the reality changed for them, and that made them angrier because the people did not feel in control of the situation.  While I had not taken control, I had changed the dynamics of the energy.  The individuals took their self loathing out on me.

The angels went on to say that the anger is borne out of fear, and that the fear is very unique to each person so it is often not possible to guess what fear is inciting the anger.  The angels were chuckling about the use of the phrase “mirroring”.  They said that there has been so much taught and written about mirroring in the “new age” communities that people are using the mirroring as an excuse to distance themselves from their own emotions.  By saying that it is the other person’s fault that they are angry, the individuals are abdicating responsibility for their emotions.   And, the angels said, there are a lot of angry people in the world right now.  And many are blaming others for their anger. 

I asked what I could do.  The first thing, said the angels, is not to take it on – the anger, that is.  Angry people want everyone to be angry, and they want the drama from the situation.  The angels advised me to be calm, and to work through what I needed to get done.  If it is impossible to get the work done, then the advice was to leave the situation for the time being, and come back to it at a later time.  

The hard part of this situation of anger is wanting to react with anger.  The easiest way for me to handle this was simply to back out of the situation because they had invited me in, and, it seemed that they were not ready for me.

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Have you had situations like this?  What have you done?

Many blessings,

Judy

Foxy Times - Spirit Animal

I have been noticing a lot of different news stories about foxes - in Toronto, London, Japan, and really, all over the northern hemisphere.  

The question becomes “Why is Fox so in our faces all of a sudden?”

Good question!  Different sages have written about Fox.  They write that Fox is about mystery – because of its colouring, and that is true.  They write, too, that Fox is about being aware of family because Fox is a good parent, and a good pack member.  That is true.  Others have written that Fox is about being aware of one’s surroundings and the interconnectedness of all things.  I see this as true because of the way Fox adapts to city environments.

I think that Fox is the same as she/he ever was.  The difference, I believe is that we are more aware of Fox because we are more attuned to life around us.  Before this attuning, we were simply unaware of much of the natural life around us.

I also see Fox as a symbol for us in these changing times.  The symbol stands for adaptation, finding new food supplies (Fox has only survived because it has strong adaption skills that let it move through different environments, and it always goes where the food is), and for living outside the boundaries of what people think and expect.  Fox has long escaped man and his hunting dogs by doing the unexpected.

Fox is showing that it is there to support humans as they go through the changes of this next year.  Call on Fox to guide you.  It will show you how to “out-fox” the situation!

Many blessings,

Judy

Faulty Logic

Moving right along onto things that I don’t understand, I come to the whole “faulty logic” thing.  Why has this got me thinking?  Well, I have a list!  Here are two things on it:

-people who think that having a driver’s license makes them a good driver

-buying “healthy” yogurt which has 28 g of sugar in it, and no fat, and almost no protein 

As you might guess, I was just at the market to get some groceries, and these things popped up for me.    I asked my Angels why these things bugged me.  The response was that faulty logic is a disruptive energy that will assault the light. They said I was bugged because I wanted to correct the logic, and knew that I could not interfere.  The Angels talked about the need to let go of things in my mind (not unlike the Buddhists who say to let go of attachment).

The Angels continued that mankind has many belief systems that are built on faulty logic, and that the belief systems keep humans locked in to a darker energy then they could be in if they simply went with the flow, and left behind all other people’s ideas, thoughts, and marketing. 

That explanation made sense to me.  I am letting go.  The process is slower than I expected.  There must be some very deep roots there.

Blessings,

Judy