Dealing With Another’s Anger

I have been writing in my journal for many years.  I often like to look back at what I have written to see what memories the writing sparks in me.  Sometimes, the writing is a story.  The article below comes from my last job in software and IT.

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Over the last couple of days, I have had to deal with other people’s anger – toward something else, at their partner, or towards me.  

In the cases of anger towards me, the individuals were telling me that I was impatient, and that they were reflecting or mirroring my anger towards them.  I thought that was interesting.  I had no feelings towards them.  I was simply doing the job and giving instructions for how something needed to be done.  In working with software, to change something, all steps must be precise and in order.  when I pointed out that they were not following the steps in order, one individual was angry that I was criticizing him.  

I asked my angels what was going on.  My angels replied that the individuals had created their own reality of the situation.  When I did my stuff that needed to be done, the reality changed for them, and that made them angrier because the people did not feel in control of the situation.  While I had not taken control, I had changed the dynamics of the energy.  The individuals took their self loathing out on me.

The angels went on to say that the anger is borne out of fear, and that the fear is very unique to each person so it is often not possible to guess what fear is inciting the anger.  The angels were chuckling about the use of the phrase “mirroring”.  They said that there has been so much taught and written about mirroring in the “new age” communities that people are using the mirroring as an excuse to distance themselves from their own emotions.  By saying that it is the other person’s fault that they are angry, the individuals are abdicating responsibility for their emotions.   And, the angels said, there are a lot of angry people in the world right now.  And many are blaming others for their anger. 

I asked what I could do.  The first thing, said the angels, is not to take it on – the anger, that is.  Angry people want everyone to be angry, and they want the drama from the situation.  The angels advised me to be calm, and to work through what I needed to get done.  If it is impossible to get the work done, then the advice was to leave the situation for the time being, and come back to it at a later time.  

The hard part of this situation of anger is wanting to react with anger.  The easiest way for me to handle this was simply to back out of the situation because they had invited me in, and, it seemed that they were not ready for me.

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Have you had situations like this?  What have you done?

Many blessings,

Judy

Do-Right

 I was watching a show today, and one of the characters said to the other, “Who are you? Dudley Do-Right?”

I laughed!  When I was growing up, I loved Dudley Do-Right cartoons.  Each cartoon featured a northern Mountie who was squeaky clean, always got his man, and always saved the damsel in distress.  When one saw someone as always doing the right thing, being good and true, and being above reproach, that “someone” would often be nick named “Dudley Do-Right”.  It may seem that if someone was sticking to the rules, and refused to hurt or bully or be part of anything that got some one else hurt, they were called a “Do-Right”. 

 

Dudley Do-Right captures Snidely Whiplash, and rescues the lovely Nell.  Nell throughout the series is enthralled with “Horse”.  Picture from Wikipedia.

I feel sad that when people abide by the first Rule of the Universe – harm no one – they are ridiculed.  I feel sad that the world’s overall belief system has not changed much in fifty years.  However, it feels like that belief system is about to change.  The biggest task that a Do-Right person has is to take responsibility for themselves and for their actions. In doing so, the person realizes that their actions have consequences.  When you hear a person say, “I had no choice”, know that they are trying to abdicate responsibility, and blame someone else.  Any Do-Right person will say instead, “I made a choice”, and become accountable.

Are you a Do-Right?

Many blessings,

Judy

Lion on Pride - A Spirit Animal

 

The Lion speaks about his PRIDE – his family, and pride and joy.  Lion says that you do not get to default on your responsibilities to your family. If you decide to walk away because you need a change, know that you can never go back.  When your PRIDE is gone, it is taken over by  a new leader/father/teacher, and the memory of you is dust.

The PRIDE is dependent on one another and although each lioness, cub, or lion is individual, they also have an identity as a whole. Change is a constant to the PRIDE.  Some are born, some leave, and some die.  It is the circle of life.  The constants are the rules of the PRIDE, and the survival of the PRIDE.

Blessings,

Judy