Wednesday, June 14, 2023

Healing Past Hurts - It Must be Done

 I was reading a meditation today that said, “the human heart does not stay away too long from that which hurt it most.  There is return journey to anguish that few of us are released from making.” - Lillian Smith                              

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The quote made me think of all the clients that I've seen who have an illness or a block that stems from an incident in childhood.  When we are children, the strongest people in our lives are our parents.  And, because they have not resolved all of their issues, they often hurt the child inadvertently, or, in some cases, purposefully.  Because our parents did not know how to resolve their issues, they are no help in resolving a child's issues.

When of the largest categories of books in a bookstore or library are self help books.  This is because of many of the unresolved issues and hurts in people today.  I have read my share of these books.  One of the common themes is that if you don't resolve these hurts then you will remain in victim hood. 

So, what is an easy way to heal past hurts? For me, the easiest way is to throw the hurt into the fire.  I am using a fire ceremony to do this because it is simple and it feels so good.  If the fire ceremony does not completely clear the hurt, then I use an affirmation.  My affirmation is “I forgive myself for believing that I ever did anything wrong”.  This affirmation is based on the idea that one’s life is perfect and that each action is perfect in the moment for whatever part of the bigger picture we each play.

May you find a way to heal all your hurt.

Many blessings,

Judy

Tuesday, June 13, 2023

Chickadees Bring Joy

Picture of chickadee sitting on Judy’s hand – picture by Judy Hirst.

A while ago, I walked into Burnsmeade Woods with my dog, and right at the start of the path into the woods, we were greeted with cries of “chika-dee-dee-dee! Dee-de-dee. Dee-dee.” 

It sounded like “Welcome! Hi Judy!” I was surrounded by twenty little friends, all joyfully singing and saying, “We missed you!” What was really fun was that while I was getting out their treat of black seeds, they sat on my arm and sang, to me, my dog, to the world in general.  One little chickadee flew up on a high up branch, and sang as loud as he could—with words that sounded like, “she’s here, she’s here”.  Within two minutes, three nut hatches and two downy woodpeckers came to join the party.  The noise was glorious – much like any cocktail party sounds!

As the chickadees lined up on my arm for their turn at the seeds, I felt so humble in the presence of such great trust.  I felt so at peace and at one with each of them.  Passersby commented that they could not believe that all these birds would be around me and on me with a dog present.   My explanation – we have been friends now, my dog and the birds and I, for about three years now.  
Several of the chickadees stopped before they took their seeds, and looked at me, and sent me a message.  The message was – we love you and appreciate you – even without the seeds.  You are our friend.  I was profoundly moved!  The message made me think that we often do not appreciate ourselves, our families or our friends, or even the beauty around us. 

Chickadees gift was the reminder to be even more aware and present than ever before.
Have a beautiful day.

Many blessings,
Judy

Monday, June 12, 2023

Affirmations are a Gift!

The image below is from www.mysticmum.co.uk.  What a wonderful poster!

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Yesterday, I watched a short movie called “THE STRANGEST SECRET”.    The key point in the movie is that by changing what you think about and how you think about anything, you can change your life.  This same thought was the theme of the movie “A KNIGHT’S TALE” starring Heath Ledger.  In fact, the theme was – You can change your stars!

Listening to Nightingale talk sent me back to a sales and marketing course that I took many years ago.  In that three day workshop, I learned ten affirmations that I still use today.  Here they are:

  1. You like yourself unconditionally. You really like yourself. 
  2. You always speak in positive terms about yourself and others.
  3. You enjoy and appreciate everyone you meet. You like them, and they like you.
  4. You always decide for yourself what is best for you, and you allow others the same right.
  5. You accept complete responsibility for your life, and for your reactions to all situations.
  6. You enjoy excellent health, and you are easily able to relax at any time.
  7. You are always calm, confident, and self assured in your interactions with others, with groups as well as with individuals.
  8. You are very creative in all areas of your life, always tapping more and more into your super conscious mind.
  9. You have an excellent memory, and you easily recall names, numbers, and information.
  10. You are a total winner and you are completely successful at everything that you undertake to do.

When I say them, I change the word “you” to “I”.  When I listen to them as a meditation, I keep the word “you”.  Repeating each affirmation five times solidifies the meaning in your mind.  Five is the number of “getting things done”.

I asked my guides if affirmations work.  They responded that affirmations are simply mantras.  In a recent blog, I gave this explanation of a mantra.

Mantra repetition simply means  repeating a sentence or group of words that have a phonetic significance. 

Mantra is intrinsically related to sound. Mantra is sound, and sound is reverberating in everything in this universe. When water flows, the gurgling sound it makes, is mantra. When wind blows through the trees, the  rustling sound it produces is mantra.  When we walk on the earth, our footsteps produce sound, and that too is mantra. 

Many eastern mantras are repeated 100 times at a sitting.  Imagine the change in your body, mind, and spirit if you repeated the above affirmations 100 times a day.  Why not try it? Start with five repetitions of each affirmation, and see what change happens for you.  Let me know the results.

Many blessings,

Judy

Sunday, June 11, 2023

The Sound of OM

Before Covid I was teaching a beginner’s meditation class, and as part of the workshop, explained the concept of the word/sound “OM” to the participants.  Then we did some experiential learning with the sound, both with only me saying the sound, and then with all of us saying the sound.

Students felt the vibration from the sound whether I did it or whether they did it. And, they were profoundly moved!

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Picture of OM from omgayatri.com

'ॐ' is a kind of shortcut of the word 'ओम' in DevaNagari and other Indic scripts – from omgayatri.com

 

 

Here is part of a slide that I presented on “OM”.  

Mantra repetition simply means  repeating a sentence or group of words that have a phonetic significance. 

Mantra is intrinsically related to sound. Mantra is sound, and sound is reverberating in everything in this universe. When water flows, the gurgling sound it makes, is mantra. When wind blows through the trees, the  rustling sound it produces is mantra.  When we walk on the earth, our footsteps produce sound, and that too is mantra. 

According to ancient Indian belief  in the beginning there was sound, which  reverberated as Om and from that sound everything came into existence.

I believe that the sound OM, pronounced A-U-M and strung out (Pronunciation: aaaaauuuuummmmm), really is the the sound of Divine creation.  I have seen people chant this for a while, and then suddenly break out in hard sobbing, because, through the chant, they have been reconnected to The Divine, and the person feels an incredible blessing and release.  I know that when I have an issue that I can not seem to move with other tools, that I can generally move it within ten minutes by using the OM chant.

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OM or Aum is a Sanskrit root word or seed-sound symbolizing the creative divine intelligence which creates ands sustains all things: It is also known as the cosmic vibratory intelligent word of God that sustains all the created universes. Aum of the Vedas became the sacred word Hum of the Tibetans; Amin of the Moslems; and Amen of the Egyptians Greeks, Romans, Jews and Christians. OM symbol  and info from www.astrogems.com

One of the stories that I shared in the workshop was about using OM out in Nature. Quite a few years ago, before our park got so busy, my husband, Roger, and I walked out in the park almost every evening during the summer.  Often, we would find a big log beside the river sub-channel, and sit and OM.  Often while we sat there chanting, the beavers would bring their supper of sticks, and come and sit on the river bank, close to where we were sitting, and chow down and listen to the concert.  When we were done, they would swim off.  The beaver’s actions told me that they, too, enjoy the sound of The Divine.

If you have never tried to say the sound “OM”, I invite you to try it now.  Try it several times a day.  It is a wonderful pick-me-up!

Many Blessings,

Judy

Saturday, June 10, 2023

Mother Duck Trusts

 

    This picture is a random picture of a duck and a grate, and is not part of the story below.

 

To finish off this week of blogs, I am writing up one more story.

Years and years ago, one of my friends sent me the coolest story of a duck trusting her instincts and going to a policeman for help to save her babies.  This Mother Duck is a shining example of faith, of extreme love for her young, of the way Nature is changing with all of her children, and it is simply a great story about having the spirit to survive regardless of the obstacles.  Animals and birds are like humans, our future survival depends on the survival of our children.  And this Mother Duck has it right!  The story below originally appeared in the Vancouver Sun back in 2008.  I loved the story so much that I kept the clipping.

Judy  (Send me any interesting animal stories and I will include them!  email - lightstationwisdom@gmail.com)

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Mother duck's 'bird brain' saves ducklings  
She grabs police officer by pant leg to lead him to her brood trapped under grate  
Nicholas Read Vancouver Sun

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Ray Peterson, Special to the Sun / Mother duck shows police officer where her ducklings fell through a grate into a sewer underneath the Granville Street Bridge.

Don't mention 'bird brains' to Ray Petersen, because after what happened this week, he won't hear a word of it. 

Petersen, a community police officer for Granville Downtown South, was walking in the 1500-block Granville Street (directly under the Granville Bridge) Wednesday morning when a duck came up and grabbed him by the pant leg. Then it started waddling around him and quacking. 

'I thought it was a bit goofy, so I shoved it away,' Petersen said in an interview. 

But the duck, a female (he thinks it was a mallard), wasn't about to give up that easily. Making sure she still had Petersen's eye, she waddled up the road about 20 metres and lay on a storm sewer grate. 

Petersen watched and thought nothing of it. 

'But when I started walking again, she did the same thing. She ran around and grabbed me again.' 

It became obvious to him then that something was up. 

So when she waddled off to the sewer grate a second time, Petersen decided to follow. 

'I went up to where the duck was lying and saw eight little babies in the water below. They had fallen down between the grates.' 

So Petersen took action. He phoned police Sergeant Randy Kellens, who arrived at the scene and, in turn, got in touch with two more constables. 

'When they came down, the duck ran around them as well, quacking. Then she lay down on the grate,' Petersen said. 

While Kellens looked over into the grate, the duck sat on the curb and watched. 

Then the two constables, John Schilling and Allison Hill, marshalled a tow truck that lifted the grate out of position, allowing the eight ducklings to be rescued one by one with a vegetable strainer. 

'While we were doing this, the mother duck just lay there and watched,' Petersen says. 

Once the ducklings were safe, however, she set about marching them down to False Creek, where they jumped into the water. 

Kellens followed them to make sure they were all right, but elected to remain on shore. 

The experience has changed Petersen's mind about ducks. He thinks they're a lot smarter than he used to. 

And while he never ate duck before, he says he wouldn't dream of it now.

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Many blessings,

Judy

Friday, June 9, 2023

A Black Lab Story

 

This picture is from Encyclopedia Brittanica and is not an image of the dog in the story.


Well, it feels like I should continue with another story.  This is not about my dogs.  Knowing my passion for animals, my friends send me animal stories all the time.  Here is one about a black lab that I would like to share.  I do not know if it is true.  It is, however, a great read and aptly illustrates the intelligence of dogs.

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They told me the big black Lab's name was Reggie as I looked at him lying in his pen.  the shelter was clean, no-kill, and the people really friendly. I'd only been in the area for six months, but everywhere  I went in the small college town, people were welcoming and  open.  Everyone waves when you pass them on the street. 

But something was still missing as I attempted to settle in to my new life here, and I thought a dog couldn't hurt.  Give me someone to talk to. And I had just seen Reggie's advertisement on the local news.  The shelter said they had received numerous calls right after, but they said the people who had come down to see him just didn't look like "Lab people," whatever that meant.  They must've thought I did. 

But at first, I thought the shelter had misjudged me  in giving me Reggie and his things, which consisted of a dog pad, bag of toys almost all of which were brand new tennis  balls, his dishes, and a sealed letter from his previous owner..  See, Reggie and I didn't really hit it off when we got home.  We struggled for two weeks (which is how long the shelter told me to give him to adjust to his new home).  Maybe it was the fact that I was trying to adjust, too.  Maybe we were too much alike. 

For some reason, his stuff (except for the tennis balls - he wouldn't go anywhere without two stuffed in his mouth) got tossed in with all of my other unpacked boxes.  I guess I didn't really think he'd need all his old stuff, that I'd get him new things once he settled in.  but it became pretty clear pretty soon  that he wasn't going to. 

I tried the normal commands the shelter told me he knew, ones like "sit" and "stay" and "come" and "heel," and he'd follow them - when he felt like it.  He never really seemed to listen when I called his name - sure, he'd look in my direction after the fourth of fifth time I said it, but then he'd just go back to doing whatever.  When I'd ask again, you could almost see him sigh and then grudgingly obey. 

This just wasn't going to work.  He chewed a couple shoes and some unpacked boxes.  I was a little  too stern with him and he resented it, I could tell. The friction got so bad that I couldn't wait for the two weeks to be up, and when it was, I was in full-on search mode for my cell phone amid all of my unpacked stuff.  I remembered leaving it on the stack of boxes for the guest room, but I also mumbled, rather cynically, that the "damn dog probably hid it on me." 

Finally I found it, but before I could punch up the shelter's number, I also found his pad and other toys from the shelter..  I tossed the pad in Reggie's direction and he snuffed it and wagged, some of the most enthusiasm I'd seen since bringing him home.  But then I called, "Hey, Reggie, you like that?  Come here and I'll give you a treat."  Instead, he sort of glanced in my direction - maybe "glared" is more accurate - and then gave a discontented sigh and flopped down.  With his back to me. 

Well, that's not going to do it either, I thought.  And I punched the shelter phone number. But I hung up when I saw the sealed envelope.  I had completely forgotten about that, too.  "Okay, Reggie,"  I said out loud, "let's see if your previous owner has any advice.".... ..... 

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To Whoever Gets My Dog: 

Well, I can't say that I'm happy you're reading this, a letter I told the shelter could only be opened by Reggie's new owner... I'm not even happy writing it.  If you're reading this, it means I just got back from my last car ride with my Lab after dropping him off at the shelter.  He knew something was different.  I have packed up his pad and toys before and set them by the back door before a trip,  but this time... it's like he knew something was wrong.  And something is wrong... which is why I have to go to try to make it right. 

So let me tell you about my Lab in the hopes that it will help you bond with him and he with you. First, he loves tennis balls.  the more the merrier..  Sometimes I think he's part squirrel, the way he hordes them.  He usually always has two in his mouth, and he tries to get a third in there.  Hasn't done it yet.  Doesn't matter where you throw them, he'll bound after it, so be careful - really don't do it by any roads.  I made that mistake once, and it almost cost him dearly. 

Next, commands.  Maybe the shelter staff already told you, but I'll go over them again:  Reggie knows the obvious ones - "sit," "stay," "come," "heel."  He knows hand signals:  "back" to turn around and go back when you put your hand straight up; and "over" if you put your hand out right or left.  "Shake" for shaking water off, and "paw" for a high-five.  He does "down" when he feels like lying down - I bet you could work on that with him some more.  He knows "ball" and "food" and "bone" and "treat" like nobody's business. 

I trained Reggie with small food treats.  Nothing opens his ears like little pieces of hot dog. Feeding schedule:  twice a day, once about seven in the morning, and again at six in the evening.  Regular store-bought stuff; the shelter has the brand. He's up on his shots. Call the clinic on 9th Street and update his info with yours; they'll make sure to send you reminders for when he's due.  Be forewarned:  Reggie hates the vet.  Good luck getting him in the car - I don't know how he knows when it's time to go to the vet, but he knows. 

Finally, give him some time.  I've never been married, so it's only been Reggie and me for his whole life.  He's gone everywhere with me, so please include him on your daily car rides if you can.  He sits well in the backseat, and he doesn't bark or complain.  He just loves to be around people, and me most especially. Which means that this transition is going to be hard, with him going to live with someone new. 

And that's why I need to share one more bit of info with you..... His name's not Reggie.  I don't know what made me do it, but when I dropped him off at the shelter, I told them his name was Reggie.  He's a smart dog, he'll get used to it and will respond to it, of that I have no doubt.  but I just couldn't bear to give them his real name.  For me to do that, it seemed so final, that handing him over to the shelter was as good as me admitting that I'd never see him again.  And if I end up coming back, getting him, and tearing up this letter, it means everything's fine.  But if someone else is reading it, well... well it means that his new owner should know his real name.  It'll help you bond with him.  Who knows, maybe you'll even notice a change in his demeanour if he's been giving you problems. 

His real name is Tank. Because that is what I drive. Again, if you're reading this and you're from the area, maybe my name has been on the news.  I told the shelter that they couldn't make "Reggie" available for adoption until they received word from my company commander. 

See, my parents are gone, I have no siblings, no one I could've left Tank with... and it was my only real request of the Army upon my deployment to Iraq, that they make one phone call the the shelter... in the "event"... to tell them that Tank could be put up for adoption.  Luckily, my colonel is a dog guy, too, and he knew where my platoon  was headed.  He said he'd do it personally.  And if you're reading this, then he made good on his word. 

Well, this letter is getting to downright depressing, even though, frankly, I'm just writing it for my dog.  I couldn't imagine if I was writing it for a wife and kids and family.  but still,  Tank has been my family for the last six years, almost as long as the Army has been my family. 

And now I hope and pray that you make him part of your family and that he will adjust and come to love you the same way he loved me.  That unconditional love from a dog is what I took with me to Iraq as an inspiration to do something selfless, to protect innocent people from those who would do terrible things... and to keep those terrible people from coming over here.  If I had to give up Tank in order to do it, I am glad to have done so.  He was my example of service and of love.  I hope I honoured him by my service to my country and comrades. 

All right, that's enough.  I deploy this evening and have to drop this letter off at the shelter.  I don't think I'll say another good-bye to Tank, though.  I cried too much the first time.  Maybe I'll peek in on him and see if he finally got that third tennis ball in his mouth. Good luck with Tank.  Give him a good home, and give him an extra kiss goodnight - every night - from me. 

Thank you, Paul  Mallory 

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I folded the letter and slipped it back in the envelope.  Sure I had heard of Paul Mallory, everyone in town knew him, even new people like me.  Local kid, killed in Iraq a few months ago and posthumously earning the Silver Star when he gave his life to save three buddies.  Flags had been at half-mast all summer. 

I leaned forward in my chair and rested my elbows on my knees, staring at the dog. 

"Hey, Tank," I said quietly. 

The dog's head whipped up, his ears cocked and his eyes bright. 

"C'mere boy." 

He was instantly on his feet, his nails clicking on the hardwood floor.  He sat in front of me, his head tilted, searching for the name he hadn't heard in months. 

"Tank," I whispered. 

His tail swished. I kept whispering his name, over and over, and each time, his ears lowered, his eyes softened, and his posture relaxed as a wave of contentment just seemed to flood him.  I stroked his ears, rubbed his shoulders, buried my face into his scruff and hugged him. 

"It's me now, Tank, just you and me. Your old pal gave you to me."  Tank reached up and licked my cheek.   

"So whatdaya say we play some ball?  His ears perked again.  "Yeah?  Ball?  You like that?  Ball?"  Tank tore from my hands and  disappeared in the next room. 

And when he came back, he had three tennis balls in his mouth.  

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I hope that you enjoyed this story!

Many blessings,

Judy 

Thursday, June 8, 2023

A Dog is A Blessing!

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One of my friends sent me this poster, and, I love it!  I say a prayer each day for my dog.

I seem to be in a story telling mood this week. So I thought that I would tell you a story from six years ago when I had two dogs.  Dog don’t just bring joy to their family, they also bring joy to others.

This story is about my dog Magic, now deceased, and my dog Merlin, still very much alive but a senior now.

The first story is about Magic, a border collie and blue healer cross.  We were having a gathering of friends to celebrate the fall equinox.  One of our friends asked if she could bring a guest.  We said yes to the guest.  When he arrived he was very quiet and reserved.  We asked that everyone sit on the floor in a comfortable position.  Everyone had cushions and we moved into a circle.  While the ceremony was going on, Magic went over to the new comer, and sat down, then placed his paw over the man’s heart.  They sat like that for about five minutes.  You could see the man visibly shift in both his face and in his posture.  Magic then lay down in front of him and dozed.  We later learned that the man recently lost his wife.  Magic recognized the grieving and applied his own “magic”.

The second story goes that Magic, Merlin, and I were out for an early morning walk at about seven in the morning.  The off leash area that we walked in was on the route to different schools and kids would short cut through the dog park. As we walked along the grass, we watched a young man (late teens) walk up the hill to get to the top of the hill where we were walking.  At the top, he turned and walked towards us.  He was using the short cut to the high school.  He walked hunched forward, like all the weight of the world was on him.  

Quite unexpectedly, Merlin started to act silly.  He would jump over Magic and race to me and jump.  I tossed the frisbee and he jumped, twisted and landed, with a big grin on his face.  Soon, the young man was laughing at him and trying to coax Merlin to give him the frisbee.  The two played for about five minutes.  The young man’s shoulders relaxed and he was caught in the moment where nothing matters.  For a few minutes, he forgot his troubles. 

 There are other stories about the dogs that highlight the way they see people and animals and try to help them.  I felt so lucky that I was blessed with special dogs that recognized when someone needed comforting.

I would love to hear your stories of your animals, if you have a story to share.

Many blessings,

Judy.  (In case you missed it, email to lightstationwisdom@gmail.com)