If Love Is Not Provided

 The poster says:  You’ve got to learn to leave the table when love’s no longer being served.  —-Nina Simone

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We wonder why someone or some group of people do not love us.  We blame ourselves.  We must have failed them in some way.  It must be our fault!  

Be assured.  Each of us is loveable.  Each of us is love.  When people deny you love, whether it is your parents, your siblings, old friends or new friends, you need to recognize that the fault is theirs, not yours.  When someone says, ‘if you really loved me, you would do xxxxx.”, you know that they have an agenda that is to manipulate you.  Manipulation or coercion is not love.  It is forcing you to do something that is against your will.  That is not love.  

Love is acceptance without conditions.  That is why so many people are turning to pets because pets love unconditionally.

Blessings,

Judy

Buddha on Reflecting Love

The problem with interpersonal love is that you are dependent on the other person to reflect love back to you. That’s part of the illusion of separateness. The reality is that love is a state of being that comes from within.

- Ram Dass, “Tuning the Mind” 

We all expect that love will be available, freely, to us, because we are charismatic.  We believe that we are all loveable.  We believe that if we are not loveable, it is the other person’s fault.  We need to love ourselves, and then, everyone loves us! 

Blessings, 

Judy