Like Yourself!

 In the Oneness of all things, we are all loved and liked.  It is only in the human world that we get attached to whether people like us or dislike us.  Where does that come from?  Usually, it comes from the expectations that our parents set for us around whether we are “good” or “bad” and whether our parents like us or not.  That expectation of being liked is transferred to our new friends outside of the family, and then to school, and so on.

What I have learned is that no one will like me if I do not like myself.  If I am constantly harping on what I see as deficiencies in myself, others will pick up on that energy, and they will mirror my feelings.  I will feel lambasted by my shortcomings.

Know that you and I are perfect.  What we see as imperfections are in fact things that we use to help us learn and grow.  We actually are moving through time and space as we learn to love ourselves.  One of the tools that I use to help me grow and to move through the self questioning and self criticism is the Ho’ponopono meditation.

                                   

This beautiful meditation allows you to forgive yourself and others, and to move past the behaviour that is slowing you down.

May you find yourself beautiful!  May you become your best friend!

Blessings,D

Reflection - Passion In All Things

 

 

Cartoon by Hugh MacLeod at www.gapingvoid.com 

Check out his work in the blog – it is brilliant!

 

The main concern that my clients have in their lives is “how do I stay in balance?”  This is a valid concern for most people because of the hectic pace of work and how much work time moves in to our personal/family time.  As a former consultant for Microsoft, I can tell you that when I travelled, my family time was limited to weekends, and the phone calls home.  That is definitely not balance! 

What I have learned, however, is that if what I am doing is my passion, then the life force that the passion provides my mind and my body helps to keep me in balance because I am excited and joyful about life.  In that excitement, I share with my family and friends. I take time to rejuvenate. I separate work, home, and “me” time. I connect more easily with Spirit.

If you are feeling drained and out of balance, perhaps you need to identify what your passion is?  Are you living it? Does passion show up in your life currently as rage or seething anger?  Do you yell at your employees and your family? 

Take a deep breath!  If someone is pushing your buttons, remember that you installed the buttons – they did not.

Steps to Harmony

 

Did you know that the word "harmony" is really a word used to describe music where the notes that are played together provide a sound that is absolutely pleasing to the ear (depending of course on one's taste in music). The harmony also implies that either the music or the singers are in tandem with the pitch of the notes or the pitch of the voices.

When we say that we need to find balance or harmony in our life, what exactly do we mean? Most people mean that they are doing too much of one thing and doing it too frantically. It means that they don't have time for themselves or for others they consider important in their life. Like the lyrics in Harry Chapin's song, Cat's In The Cradle - "When you comin' home dad? I don't know when, but we'll get together then son You know we'll have a good time then..." we tell others that we "don't know when" we will get together to do the things that we want to do.

Harmony then begins by knowing when we will do something. If we don't know, who will know? It is our life and we need to be responsible for it, and not leave it to others to run. If you look around, the "others" are not doing very well at running a lot of things.

Harmony is about watching where one spends their time. If you are spending two to three hours a day commuting, is it time to look at the harmony of the time spent working, the time spent traveling and the time spent eating, sleeping and with family. Could you do better? Do you need to change the job or the commute?

Harmony means that you are important! How are "you" important in your life? Or are you just a player going through the motions. Do "you" get excited about something? Is it sports, crafts, or yard work? What do you do just for "you"?

Harmony means that the music is not discordant. Is your life discordant? Do you have many dramas, and shouting, and hostility around you? This is not harmony! Harmony is a peaceful flow that does not provide stress in one's life. When one tries to control the people and events around them, then you will have disharmony. We are not meant to be controllers. We are meant to be guides and helpers. When someone feels controlled, they will react. Without giving up your freedom to be, try to bring harmony into your life by dealing with people and situations in a suggestive manner rather than a commanding manner. See if this helps take the drama out of your life.

Those travelers who have been on the journey to become happy, healthy, peaceful, joyful, and loving (anyone on a spiritual path) will tell you that achieving harmony is a process. Find a step, work on it, and then move another step. And, don't be surprised if the steps are years apart.

Blessings,

Judith