In past postings, I have talked about the lessons that we get in life. This poster featuring a quote from the Buddhist teacher, Peña Chodron, explains the concept quite well.
Let me give some examples. An acquaintance of mine was having a terrible time with dating. She was using a dating app and it would seem to connect her with some great guy. They would go out for a month or so, and then he would dump her. She was feeling extremely awful about herself. Her confidence took a huge hit as did her ability to trust and to manage her time.
She finally did some self work using the Tapping Process, took a break from dating and deleted the dating app. She spent close to a year doing things for herself and going out with girl friends to do things that she liked. She even adopted a rescue dog. She loved taking him to the dog park and taking walks with him. You guessed it, on one of her outings, she met a wonderful man, with a dog, and found that they are very compatible. They are good fun to be around and they are slowly combining their houses to one.
The lesson was that as long as she was trying to control her process and manage dating, meeting the right guy wouldn’t work. When she let go of control and went with the flow, then the Universe “helped” her find a companion in two ways.
Many blessings,
Judy